How to get your kids to do what you want them to?
These tips are from the UK’s new dads, which you should read to learn how to be an effective, positive, fun dad.
Here’s how to make it work.
Don’t let your kids have the last word What you don’t want your kids thinking: “Hey, dad, I don’t have a job and I don,t need your money!”
It’s like a classic “I have to do my homework” line.
That’s the first rule of the new-dad game, and you should follow it.
This is a great way to teach kids how to work out their own self-interest.
And the best part is that it can be done.
A great example is the dad-to-be who is constantly telling his kids that they’re just doing it for fun and it’s not about money.
You can’t have it both ways, either.
Don`t try to be everything to everybody You don’t need to have everything to everyone.
The biggest mistake new dads make is thinking that everyone should do everything for them.
“If I just did everything I wanted, I wouldn’t have to worry about paying for my kids’ education,” says Mark, an 18-year-old from South Yorkshire.
“I don’t care what the other kids are doing.
I care what I have to go through in life.”
That is an attitude that can lead to kids spending way too much time and money on what they shouldn’t be doing.
Learn how to share, not dominate Share is key.
This means not taking what you don`t want from your kids and using it to make them feel good about themselves.
Instead, they should learn to share what they love with you.
“People talk about the value of sharing, but it can get really boring really quickly,” says Peter.
“It’s more fun when you can talk to your kids about things that matter to them.”
This can mean having a simple conversation about a new toy, or sharing a favorite song.
Don´t make a big deal out of how much money you make New dads often see their income as a big thing.
This can lead them to feel like they don’t deserve any of it.
“You need to pay your bills and make sure you’re spending what you earn,” says Matt, a 21-year old from Brighton.
“But it shouldn’t get to the point where you think you’re entitled to anything.
You’re really only entitled to what you make.”
Stop trying to control everything in life Everything in life should be about fun.
“Your job is to enjoy the company of your children,” says Luke, a 23-year, former model from Bristol.
“So make sure your kids feel comfortable around you and you can make them laugh and enjoy life.”
For example, having a great time at a sporting event can be a great motivation to do more of that, but don’t get bogged down in all the stuff that has to be done and what’s expected of you.
Make a plan on when you’ll be able to work and be at home When you’re a new dad, there are so many things you have to think about.
Here are some tips on how to get through the tough times: Don’t expect to be back home in the evenings and weekends.
There’s not much you can do about it. 7.
Don”t let yourself be distracted Don’t worry about what other people think about your kids.
They won’t think anything bad about you if they don`ve got nothing to do. 8.
Make sure your home life is perfect When you become a father, your home will need to be perfect.
“Don’t let anything go,” says Matthew, a 22-year veteran from London.
“Be very careful when it comes to the way you decorate and decorate your home.
You need to put your family first.”
Focus on your kids, not yourself There are so few new dads who can actually do what it takes to be successful dads, so it’s important to be on the right path and make your own plans for the future.
“As a dad you have a huge responsibility, but you can’t just take it for granted,” says Michael, a 20-year dad from Nottingham.
To be successful you have got to be able make a plan for yourself.”
Learn to love your kids More than anything, make sure that your kids are proud of you, too.
“The best way to raise your kids is to teach them how to love them,” says Laura, a 30-year woman from Bath.
“Teach them to respect you and take pride in your achievements.
And they need to know that you love them.
That will help them learn to love their own parents.”